( long have mercy on him. hope jy can hear df sigh all the way from this quarters )
My apparent abuse of authority and your perception of it aside, your reluctance in engaging with the bothersome in fear it will bring more bad than good is not something you should be the only one with a say on. Had I, for example, relied on you alone to act on whatever feelings and desires you bear towards me, I doubt we would speak nearly as much as we do, our friendship and comaraderie beside. We are long-lived species. Yingxing is not. If you would rather shoulder alone the weight of regret, be my guest. You may drive yourself to ruin if you so wish. But don't be so selfish to deny Yingxing a happy life. It's the least we could do.
If my unspoken feelings would bring me to ruin, then so be it. It would be mine to bear and mine alone. But Dan Feng, are you implying that I make Yingxing unhappy?
( just another bullet point to his list of crimes dw about it )
No. He enjoys your company and your friendship. But for all of Yingxing's confidence, his heart is as fragile as any other. If you'd find yourself unhappy to have your feelings unrequited, then why wouldn't the same apply to him?
I have no desire to dissuade you from what you believe are Yingxing's feelings. You are wiser and older than we are, and your beliefs, I'm certain, are rooted in tangible experiences. But should you be mistaken by your assumptions, it is not you who will be hurt.
There are those who say to be hurt is to live. It is an experience everyone goes through. But let me ask you, instead. What are you so scared is going to happen? That you will ruin your friendship with him? With me?
Physical wounds and emotional wounds are far different. Besides, fine. Use war as argument, if you wish. Then the fact we are long-lived species matter little. We've watched others like us die far before their time. Is that alone not enough reason to pursue what we can while we still breathe each and every time we return from the battlefield?
I've seen how deep the grief of those who lost their loved ones in the war run. I've seen many succumb to mara as a result of being left behind. There's no guarantee, but my silence may keep me from leaving a curse in the wake of my untimely passing. So allow me to carry these regrets to my grave, Dan Feng.
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And how certain are we that his feelings are not being read more into?
I'd rather not make assumptions about feelings I've never once witnessed.
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( just saying. )
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I am not, and I would not venture.
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If you're so familiar with the privileges that come with being High Elder, enlighten me on all else I'm allowed to do.
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I would enumerate what the High Elder is inclined on doing and has been, but I'm afraid that would upset him. So I'd rather not.
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( long have mercy on him. hope jy can hear df sigh all the way from this quarters )
My apparent abuse of authority and your perception of it aside, your reluctance in engaging with the bothersome in fear it will bring more bad than good is not something you should be the only one with a say on.
Had I, for example, relied on you alone to act on whatever feelings and desires you bear towards me, I doubt we would speak nearly as much as we do, our friendship and comaraderie beside.
We are long-lived species. Yingxing is not. If you would rather shoulder alone the weight of regret, be my guest. You may drive yourself to ruin if you so wish.
But don't be so selfish to deny Yingxing a happy life. It's the least we could do.
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If my unspoken feelings would bring me to ruin, then so be it. It would be mine to bear and mine alone.
But Dan Feng, are you implying that I make Yingxing unhappy?
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No. He enjoys your company and your friendship.
But for all of Yingxing's confidence, his heart is as fragile as any other. If you'd find yourself unhappy to have your feelings unrequited, then why wouldn't the same apply to him?
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You are wiser and older than we are, and your beliefs, I'm certain, are rooted in tangible experiences.
But should you be mistaken by your assumptions, it is not you who will be hurt.
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But let me ask you, instead.
What are you so scared is going to happen? That you will ruin your friendship with him? With me?
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Then the fact we are long-lived species matter little. We've watched others like us die far before their time. Is that alone not enough reason to pursue what we can while we still breathe each and every time we return from the battlefield?
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There's no guarantee, but my silence may keep me from leaving a curse in the wake of my untimely passing.
So allow me to carry these regrets to my grave, Dan Feng.
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Fine. Suit yourself.
I can't change your opinion, but I can offer you advice.
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